“I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident.
I believed I didn’t deserve the good things in my life, and so I was constantly self-sabotaging myself. I was stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to be a high-achiever, then believing I didn’t deserve the thing once I got it, then trying to be a high-achiever in another area to make up for it…make sense? I needed, and was READY FOR a straightforward, ACTION plan for my life.
I knew it was time, and it was safe, to dive into specific issues… body image, comparison, self-sabotage (I didn’t even know there was a name for this), worthiness, and shame.
Feeling like my body was directly tied to my worthiness.
Feeling like I was only one who experienced my particular sort of shame
Feeling guilty for taking a break and slowing down sometimes. Like, feeling lazy for just wanting to watch some Netflix and eat a few cookies here and there.
Feeling scared to take risks, because my inner critic shot them down pretty quickly
The community, the safe space, the sense of acceptance, naming and identifying my inner critic.. I just felt less alone. I was scared to talk to some of my friends about my deepest secrets, because I was scared that I’d be judged or shunned. The online group gave me a chance to test the waters. I got to share my story with a group of supportive, like-minded strangers, which then gave me the confidence to be more open and honest with the people closest to me.
I’m feeling different, for. SURE. I’m feeling less alone. I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident. I’m way less intimidated around certain people than I used to be. That’s like…. kind of really an amazing feeling. Instead of my inner critic telling me that I’m not good enough for them, it’s instead telling me that I am just as good as they are, and just as deserving to share my ideas. Granted, she’s telling me this with shaking knees and a trembling voice, but she’s telling it to me.”