What would it take for you to stop being

such a bitch to yourself?

...because you being so hard on yourself isn't working.

DEAR KICK-ASS WOMAN,

I’d like to tell you a little story. Years ago my marriage fell apart. Like really fell apart. Like I thought there was NO-way-on-earth-I-could-go-on fell apart. My dreams were shattered. I was swallowed up by grief and humiliation, not knowing which way was up. Basically… I had the emotional shit kicked out of me.

And from there it got worse. 10 months after that I found myself breaking up with a guy that had faked cancer to cover up his drug problem, had siphoned thousands of dollars from me, and after I’d hacked into his email account I’d found out he was cheating on me with another addict while he was away at rehab. I was humiliated and ashamed at what I had put up with and tolerated, plus I had isolated myself from most of my friends and family. I was at my lowest and I started my life over blind.

And maybe you haven’t had the emotional shit kicked out of you. Or maybe you have. Either way, I’ll bet you’re a lot like I was and have no freakin’ clue what it means or looks like to start to be kind to yourself, to be confident, and to stand up for yourself.

Maybe currently you:

SHIT TALK

You talk shit to yourself on a regular basis. You can’t remember the last time you cut yourself some slack and spoke kindly to yourself.

FEEL NOT GOOD ENOUGH

You regularly compare yourself to other women and feel like you just don’t measure up. You feel like who you are as a woman is not enough.

CHRONIC HABITS

Perfectionism, numbing out, hiding out, people pleasing, control, self-sabotage…it’s all you know and you’ve had enough.

WISH YOU WERE DIFFERENT

You aren’t proud of how you’re showing up in the world but have no idea how to change it. Plus, you can’t remember a time when you really took care of yourself and took time to do what you love. What is that, anyway? 

As I climbed out of the mess I was in and in the months (and years) that past I learned a lot about myself and about life. I learned that in order to be happy, to have better relationships, and get the things I wanted out of life that yes, I DID have to take specific and intentional steps to do so. And I did finally learn what that meant. It meant:

*Learning how to manage my self-talk and be kind to myself.

*Discovering things about myself so I could honor and be proud of who I was and actually love the woman I was.

*Pinpointing my unhealthy behaviors and learning new ways to cope.

*Using creativity to learn, grow, and heal.

*Working on worthiness. Every damn day.

I've taught countless women how to do the same.

And I’d love to teach you exactly what I learned and what I know really works.

ELIZABETH HARGRAVES

“I will never forget the moment I was standing in my kitchen working on the first prompt from the 7 day challenge and realized just how far a reach and deep a hold my inner critic had over me…

…controlling every aspect of my life. That moment was truly terrifying because I had absolutely no idea where to begin in trying to tame  her.  I was so overwhelmed and it seemed an impossible task in that moment, but I was wrong.

Over the following days of that challenge, I knew I wanted to continue to work with Andrea and learn more. I was ecstatic when the opportunity to join the 30 day Experience arrived!  The Experience was nothing short of incredible. I loved the audio format and the simple, effective worksheets and challenges.

I also loved the sense of community we built together in our Facebook group. Working with the other women allowed me to see we all struggle with such similar fears in life and sharing with one another made me understand and appreciate the benefits of being vulnerable with friends.  It was also absolutely invaluable to have more personalized attention from Andrea to answer questions and give guidance on my personal questions. Andrea’s encouragement and prompts to think deeper and really dig to the core of the issue helped me grow and understand so much more about myself. The tools she’s given me to recognize and deal with my critic have brought a sense of peace to my life I didn’t think existed. For years, one of my greatest regrets was not having finished college. I told myself it was too late in life, too expensive, too time consuming for a mommy of little people. After learning to recognize, understand and better deal with my critic, I found my courage to return to school this fall!  I know my voice of courage would never have been heard over my critic if Andrea hadn’t helped me tame her.  Andrea, I could never adequately thank you for how much you’ve helped me or tell you just how much I appreciate you!

I have deep gratitude to Andrea Owen for creating this class and this forum to give us women so much hope and support with such an important subject. This has been an incredible learning experience and I am honored to have been able to share the space with Andrea and the rest of the women in 30-Day Experience. Sending love to you all XOXO.”

FOR 30 DAYS WE WILL COVER (from April 24th-May 23rd)

Part One

Your Core Belief System

We get to the bottom of where that negative self-talk is coming from. You have to name it to tame it. Once you’re clear on your core beliefs, you can challenge them, unlearn the old ways, and start to create new beliefs. This will foster less negative self-talk and more self-assurance.

Part Two

Self-kindness and self-compassion

Because you can’t beat yourself up into happiness. The way you speak to yourself is PARAMOUNT in your happiness and kickassery. This week you’ll learn the steps to take to manage your self-talk so you can shift the energy into courage, compassion, and confidence.

Part Three

Your Go-To Behaviors and Habits

We pull the covers off the default behaviors you engage in every day, even though they don’t make you happy. Perfectionism, people pleasing, control, hiding out, and numbing just to name a few. You’ll pinpoint which are yours, and I’ll teach you ways to choose behaviors that serve you and are in alignment with the woman you want to be.

Part Four

Self-Acceptance and Self-Expression

You hiding out in this world is not helping you or anyone else. Let’s change that, sister. Part of your negative self-talk (and feeling like shit) stems from your lack of self-acceptance and self-expression. We’ll dig deep into what the remedy is (of course I have a tool for this!) as well as how creativity plays a role in you getting to know yourself, healing your wounds, and growing into who you are meant to become.

DIANE FILO

“The 30 Day Experience reminded me that I am not alone.

I’m consistently working on my self-confidence, that negative tape that plays in my head, and getting over the ghosts of a previous relationship. The 30 Day Experience reminded me that I am not alone, and I love knowing that! Your videos, posts in the Facebook group, and posts of other women really do make a difference. Since doing the class, I know I have the tools to pull out of my dark places faster.”

LINDA ROBINSON

“I feel I am far more aware of not being kind to myself.

I was so tired of being tired. In my lifelong quest to be more comfortable in my skin and seeking my idea of perfection for me, my search led me to you. My frustrations were with myself and seeming lack of ‘success’ as defined by others and my (then) limited scope of what success looks like.

My favorite part of the experience was about Self-Expression. I learned that I can kick ass without the fray of attitude and feeling guilty. I feel I am far more aware of not being kind to myself. Daily, I spend time with me and my inner-critic.”

HERE IS WHAT THE EXPERIENCE WILL LOOK LIKE...

Audios

You’ll receive 4 value-packed content audios on each of the above topics. This isn’t bullshit fluffy-glitter stuff or just talking about the problem, this is actually tried and true tools and solutions for you to practice in your life.

You’ll receive 4 value-packed content audios on each of the above topics. This isn’t bullshit fluffy-glitter stuff or just talking about the problem, this is actually tried and true tools and solutions for you to practice in your life.

Challenges

You’ll receive 8 challenges (2 each week) over the course of the 30 days. These will be a combination of inner-work plus things to actually go out and do in the world to enhance your learning and YOU.

You’ll receive 8 challenges (2 each week) over the course of the 30 days. These will be a combination of inner-work plus things to actually go out and do in the world to enhance your learning and YOU.

Worksheets

Compelling worksheets that will encourage you to think deeper than about what’s on your grocery list. You can also go back and work on them again and again if you ever have a setback or just want more practice.

Compelling worksheets that will encourage you to think deeper than about what’s on your grocery list. You can also go back and work on them again and again if you ever have a setback or just want more practice.

Lifetime Access

Access to the audios and worksheets forever so you won’t get behind and you can come back to them any time. These will never expire.

Access to the audios and worksheets forever so you won’t get behind and you can come back to them any time. These will never expire.

Online Forum

A private Facebook group where we go over everything we’re learning. You can ask me and the group questions to gain clarity and solutions, plus post your completed challenges to get encouragement and motivation!

A private Facebook group where we go over everything we’re learning. You can ask me and the group questions to gain clarity and solutions, plus post your completed challenges to get encouragement and motivation!

Sisterhood

Loads of women just like you sharing your same struggles, victories and supporting YOU. Think of it as a secret society of kickassery.

Loads of women just like you sharing your same struggles, victories and supporting YOU. Think of it as a secret society of kickassery. PLUS, you’ll get access to my alumni group when the class is over where the group supports each other and I do monthly live videos answering your questions.

The 30-Day Experience is for you if:

You’re so over the regular monologue in your head that brings you down.

You know it’s important to love and accept yourself and all that– but aren’t sure where to start.

You’re ready to know there are LOTS of other women just like you that share similar stories of struggle and can THRIVE in spite of it.

You’re ready to work on letting go of old behaviors and habits that don’t serve you anymore. AND learn new tools and life skills (because they don’t teach that in school!)

You’re ready to step out of your comfort zone and into fun challenges that will not only help you– but those around you in your life.

You enjoy hanging out online with AWESOME women talking about shit that actually matters.

You want to be on your way to better relationships, more confidence, happiness, and of course, kickassery.

 

Upon checkout, you’ll have the opportunity to add on at half-off, my digital product: Kick Your Gremlin’s Ass: Manage Your Inner-Critic For Unparalleled Self-Love. Regularly priced at $97, yours for only $47. If you’re wanting All The Tools to manage that negative self-talk, if you want to immerse yourself in the work of self-compassion, I’ve got you covered!

MATILDA MALM

“My inner critic is my best friend.

My inner critic is my best friend now and I can stand in the mirror without without makeup and think, ‘I’m gorgeous.’ I get mad and scared, of course, but it doesn’t stay that way for long. Because I’m watching my thoughts, I’m able to choose whether I want to go with my negative thoughts or my positive ones. I’m starting to embrace myself, all of me, and I love the woman I’m becoming. I love myself.”

ERIN TRUEX

“Wow, I’ve learned so much from this experience.

And I’ve had some major ‘aha’ moments. There have been a few ‘big’ things that I’ve learned about myself here.

  1. My inner critic isn’t at all my enemy. She is here to stand by my side and help me. Making peace with my inner critic is something that I have started to work on everyday.
  2. I have let my fear paralyze me by me not “showing” up in different areas of my life and isolating, by having lots of negative self-talk causing anxiety and depression and not being consistent with personal development.
  3. Consistency is what is going to keep me strong, powerful and give me that kick in the ass when I need it most.

This has been an amazing class. I feel grateful to be here and be able to share with you all my struggles and hear yours as well, but to also celebrate our victories together.”

What you'll walk away with from The 30-Day Experience:

  • New awareness around your negative self-talk and/or feelings of unworthiness. You’ve been operating the same way for decades. The Experience will show you a new way of not only speaking to yourself, but when you do the work, you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel, how relieved you are, and hope that there is a new way of being.
  • Recognition of your deep, core beliefs and how they are dictating your thoughts, behaviors, feelings and decisions. You’ll learn how to challenge those beliefs, create new ones, and recognize when you’re falling back into them. This is the birthplace of courage and confidence.
  • Deep understanding of what your default behaviors are that make you feel like shit– so that you can choose new behaviors that serve your best self, are in alignment with who you want to be, and so you can be proud of who you are.
  • A sense of community. There is something magical and powerful when a group of women come together to better themselves and to support one another. You’ll be a part of an exclusive group just for this class, as well as access to my private Alumni group where I offer support in there as well. Many of the women who take my group classes find friendships there that they foster long after the class is over.
  • To keep supporting you, you’ll have access to the YKAL alumni group— a private Facebook group for any member of one of my paid classes. You can continue to ask questions and support other women in there, and I make monthly live videos answering your questions. 

ABOUT ANDREA

Job: Certified life coach specializing in high-achieving women. Serving it up straight with no BS. Ever. Founder of yourkickasslife.com, best-selling author, speaker, and writer for YourTango and xojane.

Things that make me swoon: My husband’s 5 o’clock shadow, the movie Clueless, the little people I made, eating copious amounts of chips and salsa, 70′s muscle cars, singing ridiculous made up songs (badly), and roller derby.

The first movie star I ever had a crush on: Ricky Schroeder

Biggest fear: Zombies. And pool drains. I can’t pick.

Why I’m qualified: I turned a shit life into a kick ass one.

I’m also a credentialed life coach. I’ve combined my training and certifications with the Coaches Training Institute and The Daring Way™ (the work and research of Dr. Brené Brown), plus my own life experience to bring you classes so that you can learn to practice life like you give a shit.

ANN MOSS

“This experience gave me so much peace and clarity.

I did the 7 day challenge, and when this class came up I knew it was the perfect way to go further. It also helped that it was affordable. Before the class, I was experiencing looping thoughts constantly. ‘Why didn’t I say this?’ ‘Why can’t I say what I want or feel?’ I was feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.

This experience gave me so much peace and clarity. The knowledge and tools I gained are invaluable! Now I know to ask my inner critic what she wants me to know or do. I have tools to approach difficult conversations and the courage to say what’s really on my mind.

Having done the class, I am feeling motivated in a peaceful way. I now know that I need to make myself a priority, and that I can have a life that is fulfilling to me. I no longer want to numb myself to deal with my life. I can lean into pain and fear, knowing that I am strong enough to not only deal, but thrive.

I would recommend this class to anyone who wants to find courage and self-acceptance!”

KAREN TAUBE

“I am speaking to myself in a much kinder manner.

I was feeling some fear based on past experiences that I needed to really take a look at. This program came at the perfect time, the time required was manageable, and just seemed “meant to be” for me.

I was down on myself for not being able to ‘do it all’ and noticed some significant criticisms coming up for me. I also was not doing what I needed to do to nurture myself. A lot of what I was doing was outer focused and about others.

Now, I feel motivated. I am able to set limits for myself and stick to them rather than going into my people pleasing or over achiever mode. I am speaking to myself in a much kinder manner. I feel great about where my life is going!
As a result of the class, I am noticing my inner critic more. I am consciously speaking to myself differently. I am being kinder and more compassionate with myself. I loved this whole experience!”

RACHEL ABRAHAM

“I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident.

I believed I didn’t deserve the good things in my life, and so I was constantly self-sabotaging myself. I was stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to be a high-achiever, then believing I didn’t deserve the thing once I got it, then trying to be a high-achiever in another area to make up for it…make sense? I needed, and was READY FOR a straightforward, ACTION plan for my life.
I knew it was time, and it was safe, to dive into specific issues… body image, comparison, self-sabotage (I didn’t even know there was a name for this), worthiness, and shame.

Feeling like my body was directly tied to my worthiness.
Feeling like I was only one who experienced my particular sort of shame
Feeling guilty for taking a break and slowing down sometimes. Like, feeling lazy for just wanting to watch some Netflix and eat a few cookies here and there.
Feeling scared to take risks, because my inner critic shot them down pretty quickly

The community, the safe space, the sense of acceptance, naming and identifying my inner critic.. I just felt less alone. I was scared to talk to some of my friends about my deepest secrets, because I was scared that I’d be judged or shunned. The online group gave me a chance to test the waters. I got to share my story with a group of supportive, like-minded strangers, which then gave me the confidence to be more open and honest with the people closest to me.

I’m feeling different, for. SURE. I’m feeling less alone. I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident. I’m way less intimidated around certain people than I used to be. That’s like…. kind of really an amazing feeling. Instead of my inner critic telling me that I’m not good enough for them, it’s instead telling me that I am just as good as they are, and just as deserving to share my ideas. Granted, she’s telling me this with shaking knees and a trembling voice, but she’s telling it to me.”

FAQs

When does the class start?

We start on Monday, April 24th and end Tuesday, May 23rd.

Do you offer refunds for this class?

In short, no. The materials never expire, so if you get sidetracked with life, you can come back to them.

I expect that by signing up, you have at least read my blog, or listened to my podcast, or spent time with me in the 7-Day Courage Challenge. That way, you know my style.

How much time do I need to invest in this class per week?

All in all about one hour per week (including the audio lesson), but you can invest more– depending on how much you want to dig in.

When do we get the lessons?

Each audio lesson will drop to your inboxes on April 24th, May 1st, 8th, and 15th. They will be between 20 and 30 minutes long.

Can guys join?

Nope, sorry fellas!

How much are you on the Facebook group? Can you answer my personal questions, struggles, issues?

I’ll be in the Facebook group as often as I can, most certainly on weekdays. You can certainly post about what you’re going through (I encourage it!) as long as it’s directly related to the topics of the course. I cannot, however, personally coach you through something from beginning to end in the Facebook group (I do 1:1 work for this type of support). What you’ll receive in this class is space to give voice to what you’re going through, and support and encouragement from myself and the group.

Will you be offering this same class again?

No, this will be the last time I offer the 30-Day Experience.

JOIN US

You’ll walk away from The Experience with a clear vision of what it means to actually start living your life from a place of courageous self-love, expression, acceptance, and kindness. ← All of those tools will be handed over to you in a pretty bow (well, Internet style bow) so you can use these tools in your life. You’ll practice the tools as we go– not just be handed them to figure out on your own.

You’ll be with like-minded women throughout the whole process, giving you the support you need. You’ll be happier and kick-asser. (And yes, that’s a word.)

Registration for the last round of The 30-Day Experience was closed in April.

This same curriculum is being rolled out into a new, more robust class that will open for registration in June and be open by invitation only. If you’re interested in one of these limited spots, please enter your contact information and Andrea will be in touch in June.

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